I am a girl and I am scared 


By  Kaifa Handoo 

I am a girl and I am scared Nirbhaya case terrified me in 2012.The nation has come across yet another incident that will send chills down your spine.
The fear is hitting me all over again. In the age of playing with dolls. They played with her innocence. She is stronger than your stereotypes, she had her own imagination to live. You came as a devil unleashed out of nowhere, broken with rage her freedom was killed. SHE IS STRONG. Society tear you little by little and then ask you why are you incomplete. SHE isn’t so weak that people will come and suppress her, SHE has the power that if SHE uses can make her own new world.

She is free in her wildness, she is a wanderess, a drop of free water. She knows nothing of borders and cares nothing for rules or customs. ‘Time’ for her isn’t something to fight against. Her life flows clean, with passion, like fresh water.
In the end, she became more than what she expected. She became the journey, and like all journeys, she did not end, she just simply changed the directions and kept going.

Keeping all this in view, when we have a look around the world, there’s a lot of crime against women and the most terrible is the RAPE. While writing this word, I got goose bombs. Two minute of silence for all the RAPE victims. According to me by putting slogans, candle march, putting her photos up doesn’t solve the problem. There should be a extreme law conducted to punish these culprits. If we see in Saudi Arabia , if any one steals anything – his hands will be cutted so having such a law doesn’t make Any theif there. If we implement such a strict law nobody will RAPE anyone. Kashmir has gone through a lot of phases- Kunan Poshpora, Asiya, Nelofar and now one more added to list Asifa. And many more that even are not known and are buried the very moment. It’s sad and disheartening to see all this happening that too in PANIN KASHEER- that we call Paradise.
Another thing that struck my mind is when we took a pledge. Got on the road to protest someone down the line a boy could have seen a girl and said ” Oh Man! She’s hot”. Sorry for my language but boys talk like that. The thing I was asking for justice of one girl but at the same time the mentality is a same. So we need to change the mentality not by raising slogans anything can change. Change should be inside out not be candle march.

Rape in a city, lifestyle was blamed
Rape of teenager, clothing was blamed

And now?
8 year old, simple dressed, living in a village, no modern lifestyle, innocent and unaware of all these things.

What’s the new excuse now?
To all the woman reading this:
Oh woman! This is not your worth. Oh woman! Just know this. You are perfect just the way you are. Your worth is way more than all this mocking you get to hear every single day of your life. Oh woman! These people wont understand you but I do. Never think of yourself to be alone. I have gone through the same. I am always there for you. Oh woman! Just remember to deal with patience through all this. Oh woman! Your patience is what will silence them. Oh woman! I know it hurts. Hurts so much that you just want to kill yourself. Oh woman! They don’t realise how precious you are now. But soon they will. All they will have is regrets. Oh woman! Please don’t feel inferior in any way because of all this. You are a blessing and will always be. Oh woman! Just know your worth. Just know it!
To all the men there;
There’s needs to be a change in the mentality

I will end up with a quote of Mirza Asad Khan Ghalib:
Sukoon Ki Baat Mat Kar Ae Ghalib, Bachpna Wala Itwaar Ab Naahi Aata

(The author can be reached at: kaifahandoo09@gmail.com)